Sex, Love, and War

Since most people living today have been able to put their personal survival in the rear view mirror, most of us are free to busy ourselves with what are clearly less critical areas of life than continuing living. We can begin to fine-tune our environment now that the lions and tigers are in their cages, and we can begin to concentrate on the less threatening but still clear threats to our society.

We send men off to war to die on a regular basis but that, for some inexplicable reason, doesn’t impress us much anymore. We see love and marriage and divorce and heartbreak on videos 24/7/365; we seem to have an insatiable appetite for this type of trivia. Affairs of the heart we seem to be able to take in stride, no problem, but when it comes to sex in this country, we fall completely apart. Our false modesty is showing everywhere.

Anyone visiting this country through the lens of the media would conclude that our country is obsessed with sex. While the love part seems to be pretty spin free in our lives, beyond the movies and sitcoms, , we are terribly conflicted about the place sex plays in our lives. We spend a fortune on sex. Here is a quick look at a some fast statistics: (These numbers are from 2006 data)

Pornography Time Statistics:
Every second – $3,075.64 is being spent on pornography
Every second – 28,258 Internet users are viewing pornography
Every second – 372 Internet users are typing adult search terms into search engines
Every 39 minutes: a new pornographic video is being created in the United States (Stats courtesy of Google Search)

Statistics abound but aren’t very recent. Nevertheless, you can believe this; sex sites enjoy the largest slice of Internet visitors online. More money is spent on pornography, just one segment of the sex market, than the entire combined sales of the top 10 tech companies in America. Add up the sales of IBM, Apple, Microsoft, Intel, Cisco, etc. and you haven’t yet made a dent on the money spent on sex.

So what you say, the money spent on porn or sex is not money out of my pocket. Guess again. More people are in jail for sex crimes than any other segment of prison populations except pot crimes. Who do you think supports these prisoners while they are in jail? Whether someone in your family is paying for a prostitute or buying porn online or not, and a ridiculously high percentage of both men and women are, you are paying to support your fellow citizens while they are in jail, to the tune of about $1000 a week per inmate on average. To be blunt about it, when someone gets busted for engaging in sex for money, you help pay the bill to prosecute them. When you take into consideration the number of people currently sitting in jail on your dime you will be amazed at your actual contribution in dollars annually. (Talk about getting no bang for your buck!)

Folks, 5 out of the 6 people you support through your taxes are in jail for victimless crimes or offenses like consensual sex and pot possession. Consider this. If I walked up to you on the street and asked you directly to give me $100 to help prosecute the hooker or the dime bag pot salesman I saw working the other side of the street, you would tell me to get lost, and you should. If you don’t have at least 1000 better ways of spending $100 you should be ashamed of yourself.

Ha, gotcha! The government takes far more yearly from the average taxpayer to provide this service for you; you just don’t make the connection. People in more advanced countries like those in Europe (it pains me to remember America used to resemble that remark; we are now about 25th from the top and falling rapidly) realized that they were supporting a fruitless persecution of harmless individuals, similar to the Salem witch trials in our country, and turned their attention and their money to better purposes.

We are still in our infancy here in America. Our society is barely 350 years old and our democracy just a few decades past 200 years of age. We are still drooling over salient gossip like teenagers, relishing every detail of the numerous sex scandals grabbing the headlines daily. Isn’t it time we started showing a little maturity? Isn’t it time to recognize that wasting $2 billion weekly on pot and sex-related offenses is just plain stupid? Can’t we citizens find some better way to spend the $500 average cost per taxpayer to house these nonviolent offenders? Wouldn’t an extra $500 help you and your family? Couldn’t we spend the money more responsibly on education, healthcare, and our country’s infrastructure?

While it’s said democratic nations, theoretically, always end up getting the government they want, I don’t believe the citizens in this country have the first clue about the government they got. We haven’t made any real social progress since Martin Luther King forced us to open our eyes and see blacks as people. The next great step in our society will be to recognize that, low and behold, we are all sexual creatures, and we should look at each other without feeling the need to censure each others behavior. A simple change in attitude from sticking our noses into everybody else’s business to leaving each other alone would save us 2 billion bucks a week. How smart does that sound? comments disabled due to abuse

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